Everyday Peacemaker

Peacemaker Ministries Devotional: A Soft Answer

by P. Brian Noble / March 13, 2020


A soft answer turns away wrath, 

but a harsh word stirs up anger. 

The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, 

but the mouths of fools pour out folly. (Proverbs 15:1–2, ESV) 


A soft answer or gentle response defuses anger. A sharp or harsh word rouses anger. Anger may be in the other person or inside you. Some people speak harshly to themselves—their self-talk is very unkind. Others speak sharply to their family and friends. Either pattern leads to anger or increases existing anger. But “softness” in speech, gentleness and kindness, are attributes of God. They will bring improvement in a situation over time. 

You have given me the shield of your salvation, 

and your right hand supported me, 

and your gentleness made me great. (Psalm 18:35, ESV, emphasis mine) 

Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God’s kindness is meant to lead you to repentance? (Romans 2:4, ESV, emphasis mine) 

God’s gentleness and kindness are ever present in our lives. It’s hard for us to imagine a holy God who is wrathful, gentle and kind, but God is God, and he can be all those things at once without his attributes violating each other. 


Are you defusing anger or kindling anger? Are you using gentleness and kindness with those you’re in conflict with and with yourself? As you lean on God’s gentleness and kindness, let it inspire within you gentle answers toward those whom you oppose or who oppose you. 


Lord, help me to be gentle even with those I feel anger toward. Please infuse my tongue with your wisdom and my answers with your kindness. . . Continue praying. 


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P. Brian Noble

P. Brian Noble

P. Brian Noble is an everyday guy who loves Jesus. He has been married to his best friend, Tanya, for 20 years and they have four children; they currently reside in eastern Washington. Brian has a Master of Arts in missional leadership from Northwest University. He is the Executive Director/CEO of Peacemaker Ministries. An ordained minister for the past 20+ years (3 years as a Youth Pastor, 14 years as a Senior Pastor, and 4 years as an Executive Pastor), he proclaims hope through the gospel message as the Holy Spirit empowers believers in their daily walk. He believes in the power of the Word of God to transform lives. He has been a Certified Christian Conciliator since 2008, with 1000+ hours of conflict coaching and mediation experience. His caseload has ranged from husband and wife cases, to family farm, to public schools, and even county government. Brian has taught peacemaking in local jails and even internationally in Uganda. His hope is that every Christian reconciles their differences in a way that glorifies God. His hope is that every Christian recognizes they are a Peacemaker before they try to do peacemaking. Finally, his hope is that every Christian reconciles by making authentic peace that blends justice, mercy, and humility.